Day 40: In My Own Words
I have a 21-year old son. If it would have been up to some misguided “medical professionals” years ago, he might never have been born.
Imagine if you can, a young wife who finds out she’s pregnant with her first child. She and her husband had been told that if they wanted to conceive, they needed to start working on it with all expediency. And now she was expecting. Because of the medical history of the parents, the gynecologist suggested they go for a genetic counseling session, which they agreed to do. They figured knowing of any conditions or abnormalities ahead of time would help them prepare for how to care for their new baby. So the appointment was arranged.
Of course they were nervous as they sat waiting to talk to the genetic counselor. Who wouldn’t be? But their nerves turned to shock and disbelief as they listened to this supposed expert not only explain about the possible inherited disease their child could have, but also put forth her opinion about what they should do with this information. This couple listened as this woman told them their child, if he in fact had this disease, could experience a host of problems and complications that would seriously decrease the quality-clearly she meant value-of his life. Therefore, the best thing to do would be to terminate this pregnancy.
After all these years, I can’t believe how I still feel about that incident. Forget the fact that they had no concern or compassion for two people excited about the birth of their first child. How dare anyone presume to speculate about the ‘quality’ of someone’s life. Are they living that person’s life? Do they know how it will feel to raise that child? No. Yet they sit on their high horse of so-called reproductive justice and pronounce doom and gloom without batting an eye. Thank God I didn’t listen to that nut.
Sorry, my resentment is showing…
I couldn’t believe that someone would tell me to abort a child based, not even on an existing condition, but on something that might not even happen. As it turns out, he does have a chronic condition, and he has had many challenges. But did that give anyone the right to counsel me, in the name of ‘health’ to take his life? See, this is what irritates so many of us in the pro-life arena. People say they’re all about women’s health, freedom, and rights. But I tell you my rights felt violated. I love women. I love children. I love families. I can say unequivocally that I am committed to helping women, children, and families understand that they are able to do and be more than the pseudo freedom fighters give them credit for. They can live and let live.
It’s been such a privilege and honor to write for these 40 days about something so close to my heart. Thanks to all of you who have read even one daily post. And thanks to Ed Gilbreath who took a chance and committed valuable cyber real estate to an issue that divides and polarizes the Black community. I appreciate his desire to bring understanding and for allowing me to try to do that.
Today concludes the 40 Days for Life campaign. Find out more about the campaign at the.
- Day 39: Top Ten – Part 2
- Day 38: Top Ten – Part 1
- Day 37: The Illusion of Choice
- Day 36: Racism Redux
- Day 35: Unity for Life
- Day 34: Where the Rubber Meets the Road
- Day 33: The Abundance of the Heart
- Day 32: Red Hot Passion
- Day 31: Meeting the Hurting
- Day 30: The Missing Link
- Day 29: Another Break
- Day 28: A More Excellent Way
- Day 28: A More Excellent Way
- Day 27: Let’s Show Some Love
- Day 26: Brothers and Sisters
- Day 25: Hope Keeps Alive
- Day 24: Generational Pain
- Day 23: Doctors in the House
- Day 22: Dear Dads
- Day 21: The Others
- Day 20: Not So Great Expectations
- Days 18 & 19: Weekend Break
- Day 17: Does Anyone Care?
- Day 16: His First Home
- Day 15: A Different Kind of Choice
- Day 14: Even Now
- Day 13: Wondrous Love
- Day 12: The Real Reason Why
- Day 11: Exhausted and Spent
- Day 10: Every Breath We Take
- Day 9: First Things First
- Day 8: In the Power of Our Hand
- Day 7: Somebody Prayed for Them
- Day 6: Knowing Us
- Day 5: Mercy in the Midst of Judgment
- Day 4: Not for the Faint of Heart
- Day 3: The Unborn Child as Lazarus?