As more and more information gets released about the alleged domestic violence situation between Chris Brown and Rihanna, we will be in the position to do one of two things, continue to gawk and be fascinated with it, sharing every detail we get from other news sources with friends and laughing about how the situation must of went down or we can pray.
Now I can describe the former because that is what I’ve been doing since news broke last night on the red carpets at the Grammys. My sick and twisted side latched on to every bit of info that I was given via blogs and the news. My first impulse was not to drop on my knees and pray for Rihanna’s well being and for Chris’s redemption. Aside from being totally appalled with this situation, I’ve been wondering, “Why he would even do it?” Why even lift a hand to her? And unfortunately the answer may stem from the fact that Brown inherited a generational curse of abuse. According to an interview that appeared in a 2007 issue of Giant magazine, Brown said that his mother was abused by his stepfather:
“He used to hit my mom. He made me terrified all the time, terrified like I had to pee on myself. I remember one night he made her nose bleed. I was crying and thinking, ‘I’m just gonna go crazy on him one day…’ I hate him to this day.
Now this is no excuse for Sunday’s events, but it could explain some things. But even this is not the point of this post. I say all I have said to call those that will to a higher standard. To not be a spectator searching for every bit of info you can get, but instead be an intercessor praying for him, his family and Rihanna. This is not going to be an easy process for him–for either of them. Sponsorships have already suspended his campaigns and this is only the beginning, as he could face up to nine years in prison. So what this young black man needs right now is a fan base that will put aside their own morbid curiosity for the details and go to their closets to pray for him.
As hard as it will be, and I know it will be because it’s so much sexier to participate in the wasteful conversation and speculation about this situation, tell your flesh to take a backseat while you handle the business of the Spirit.